Sex Therapy
in Denver
INDIVIDUAL AND COUPLES THERAPY IN-PERSON IN DENVER
AND ONLINE ACROSS THE COUNTRY
You Want More From Your Sex Life, But Where Do You Even Start?
Most of us were not given the information we need to have a satisfying, enriching, pleasurable relationship with our sexuality. If we were lucky, we were taught the mechanics of sex - but we were definitely not taught how to enjoy sex. Add to it that we are constantly confronted with conflicting messages about sex. You’re having too much! You’re not having enough! Men should always want to have sex! You need to put effort into your sex life! Sex should be natural! Because of this, your sex life can become more focused on expectations than pleasure.
Our sex lives can also change throughout our lives. What worked for you in the honeymoon phase may not be cutting it in your current life. Work, kids, household responsibilities, changing body image and libido - it’s easy for sex to feel like the first priority to let go of. Maybe at the end of the day you’re feeling “touched out.” Or when you’re having sex, your mind can’t help but wander to your never ending to do list. You may wonder if you even have a sex drive anymore! Sex has become another thing that you feel like you have to do instead of a place for meaningful intimacy with your partner. This can leave you feeling less connected in your relationship, a sense of responsibility over your partner’s satisfaction, or like you’re just plain broken. Let’s swap the pressure for pleasure in your sex life.
Your Pleasure Matters - Let’s Make it a Priority
What if your sexual relationship could be about connection, pleasure and fun? This doesn’t mean that sex will just come naturally, but when you are able to be present in your body, sex can be something you actually WANT. So many of us are facing constant pressures to do more. This leads us to deprioritize pleasure in most areas of our life - not just our sex life. Working to improve your sex life is about more than just pleasing your partner. It’s about connecting to you - what you feel, what you enjoy, what you want more of. Pleasure is powerful and you deserve to experience it in all areas of your life.
Sex therapy can help you examine what sex means to you. Whether it’s messaging from religion, society, past relationships - none of us enter into our relationships without sexual baggage. My hope is to help you tune out the noise and instead listen to your values and your body to create a sexual relationship that is right for you and your partner. From there, we can work to help you be more present in the moment - because that is where pleasure is experienced - in the now!! Sex is a vulnerable topic and we often don’t know what we don’t know. It’s okay to admit it’s tough! Sex therapy offers a supportive and confidential space for individuals or couples to explore their sexual concerns, learn new skills, and improve their overall sexual health and well-being. Let’s help you navigate your sexual journey with acceptance and non-judgment.
Sex Therapy Can Help You Navigate:
Pain with sex
Performance anxiety
Differing levels of desire in couples
Sexual shame/unhelpful beliefs about sex
Difficulties related to sexual trauma
Navigating ethical non-monogamy/poly relationships
Sexual enhancement, such as increased sexual exploration or kink practices
Frequently Asked Questions About Sex Therapy
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Sex therapy is very similar to most other kinds of talk therapy, except we are talking about sexual health and functioning. It is a type of therapy where we can do away with shame and embarrassment and instead speak openly and professionally about sexual satisfaction. Common topics discussed in sex therapy include disruptions to physical arousal, communicating sexual needs and wants, frequency of sex, and reconnecting with sexuality post-trauma. Sex therapy does not involve a therapist witnessing or participating in sexual acts.
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Sex therapy can be completed either with or without your partner present. You can even engage in sex therapy if you do not currently have a partner! If you do have a current partner, there can be pros and cons to attending as a couple. Ultimately, within any sexual relationship there is not only one person who is “the problem.” For this reason, it can be helpful to have both partners present to help address concerns and solutions for both of you. That being said, if you do not feel comfortable discussing sexual concerns with your partner present or want treatment to be more focused on your individual needs, sex therapy can also be effective on an individual basis.
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Absolutely! What is happening in your sex life is often a reflection of what is going on in your life in general. Whether it is trauma, stress, anxiety, depression, relationship concerns - these difficulties often show up in your sex life. However, many therapists who are not trained in sex therapy can overlook this important aspect of your life. Sex therapy may be your primary treatment goal or a secondary priority. Depending on your needs, we will work to balance discussion of your overall functioning while not losing sight of ways we can help improve your sexual health.
